Wednesday, May 30, 2012

This morning a former CIT student bullied by staff at CIT challenged me and put me completely on the back foot. The student said something like; “If the staff members you mentioned know I was bullied by X where in the hell were they when this was going on”? Then the student said words along the line of, “You staff at CIT have shown no concern for your students, who would trust being ‘protected’ by you”?

She then went on to challenge me for the role I played/am playing. I was not around during her time but she is absolutely right – where were we? Where were you? I am not at all negating that you may have tried, that there were/are people with special skills at CIT who apply them daily to assist students. But I need to make this statement below.

Dear Student

I don’t even know your name. You were not a student of mine but you were a student in the department I worked in.  I witnessed you being bullied and harassed by a staff member who had decided to fail you.

Another staff member and I heard the whole thing. We hovered outside the open office door in a complete quandary about what to do. Each of us walked past the open door to get a look at the both of you and what was happening. We were distressed by your distress and by the ugly body language of X who we both felt were enjoying themselves at your expense.

We discussed whether we should intervene.

We knew by what was discussed and by your completely logical arguments that you put to X over and over that you did not deserve to fail. We witnessed your distress. We witnessed you pleading and finally crying. We saw you walk away and were relieved … too late to act.

In the end we did nothing. I am so so sorry.

I was a coward.

I apologize unreservedly to you and any other student hurt at CIT by my inaction.

Sincerely and truthfully
Lorese Vera


  1. Go placidly amidst the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

    Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

    Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

    Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

    Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

    Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

    And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labours and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its shams, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful.

    Strive to be happy.


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    1. Thanks so much Chester .. a timely and wise response.